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Hopelessly Homosexual?

     Is there any hope for someone who wants out of the dangerous and Self-destructive lifestyle of the homosexual?  If  a person has gone a long way down the wrong road of the “alternate lifestyle” and stayed there longer than he wants, can he come back from the brink?  Is it a cascading avalanche that can only end in ruin?  Has he gone past the point of “no-return” of a Niagara Falls demise?  Is he doomed?
     Before answering, we must answer some other more pertinent queries first.  Are you ready to get out?  Do you want out?  How badly do you want out?  Is it you that wants out, or is it your family that is trying to get you out?  If it is your wife, your mother, your friends and family that is trying to get you out, there isn’t much hope.  What difference does it make?  It makes all the difference in the world. 
     Though the whole world wants to help you and deliver you from any addictive, dependent behavior, it won’t do a bit of good until YOU want deliverance.  How many mothers cry themselves to sleep each night for a wayward child?  How many wives flee the abusive spouse, file for divorce, and seek protection from an “out-of-control” husband?  Oh, the family would love to help, and even put up money to finance any program that might help their wayward one, but it will avail nothing, if you, the soiled soul, does not want cleansing, rejuvenating, and restoration.

     To put this into perspective, I once drove a “destructive behavior” individual to a treatment center many hundreds of miles away.  The family put up hundreds of dollars.  Hours were spent in prayer and counseling.  I gave him every bit of help I possibly could.  He got accepted into the treatment program and started his recovery process.  However, he soon ran away from those who were helping him, and the sad truth is, he never got straightened out.  He died a few years ago, a hopeless, helpless addict.  The family and I still talk and are reminisce, and they have thanked me over and over again for the help I gave their loved one, but death ended his dysfunctional, dreary existence.
     You see, a person has to WANT help.  He has to realize he has a problem.  He must decide that
he no longer wants to live like that.  Personally.  Himself.  This is step one.  He won’t ever pull out of his nose-dive if he thinks it’s just a thrilling carnival ride that he can take again and again.  You see, he is not just “involved” in an unsafe activity.  He is ENJOYING his “wild” life.  As long as someone likes what he is doing, he will not change. 
     This is not to say that if someone gets a real scare or has a bad experience that he will change his life.  Quite the opposite.  There is something thrilling about beating the odds.  It is fun to do something that is considered “wrong” and getting away with it.  Especially if you get away with it over and over again.  Somehow there is something that says, “you won’t get caught.”  “You are invincible.”  “Accidents happen to the other guy.”  “Nothing has happened to you yet.” 

     A certain boldness ensues when you continue undaunted.  There is no fear of wrong.  There is no fear of suffering for your actions.  Things will always continue as they always have.  It becomes a hardness.  A spirit of brazenness.   A shameless spirit.
      But  when you finally get to the point where you no longer enjoy the path you have chosen, and  honestly and seriously want out, there is hope.   It is not going to be easy.  It is going to be an uphill battle.  It very well may be the hardest thing you will ever do.  But it is worth it.  You can escape, as many others have before you.  Their families are happy.  They, themselves are glad.  It becomes quite an example for others and an encouragement.

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